Think back to when you were a child...
...and your favorite teacher commended you in front of the whole class. Positively blush-able! Or what about the time when a family member celebrated you at the dinner table for a job well done?
You may be reading this and thinking, ‘I honestly don’t remember’.
Unfortunately, encouragement can sometimes be a rare occurrence. I think it’s really sad that we live in a society where one almost questions the motive of another, when something nice is said. Hubby comments on his wife’s outfit, and the immediate response is ‘What do you want"?
The fact of the matter is, we all need to be affirmed. There is a deep desire within each of us to know that we are doing good and making a difference. So what happens when we don’t receive this affirmation from the people in our world?
We have to become our own cheerleader.
When affirmations don’t come from people around us, we have to step up and DO IT OURSELVES! I call it ‘DIY Affirmations’.
‘What’s the point’? you ask.
Let’s be open and honest for a moment.
How often do you think negatively about yourself? Once, twice, three times a day? Hundreds of times? Have you ever woken up, stood in front of the mirror, not even given the day a consideration, yet instead, your immediate thought is something like,
‘Ugh. I hate my nose.’
‘I wish I wasn’t so flabby.’
‘My hair sucks. I just want to shave it all off and be done with it.’
Or maybe your thoughts run deeper still…
‘I never thought I’d be here at my age.’
‘My family was right. I’m such a failure.’
Negativity comes naturally. We live in a broken and fallen world. We are born into a sinful nature. We don’t have to learn to do bad things. You don’t have to teach a child to lie or to be a complete nightmare. It just comes naturally. Ever heard of the terrible two’s? It’s a real thing I swear. The minute my kid turned two, he turned into the devil. No joke.
Instead, you have to teach a child to say sorry. You have to teach a child to respect others, to be kind and loving. To share.
Well, it’s the same with speaking words of affirmation. When was the last time you affirmed someone in your world? We have to learn to affirm and encourage. To speak life over our loved ones. To build them up, rather than tear them down.
It is as important to speak words of affirmation over the people we love, as it is to speak words of affirmation over ourselves.
Firstly, do this exercise when you are alone so that you can really take heed of the process. The last thing you want is interruptions and well-meaning loved ones taking the mick.
Once you’ve found your quiet moment, stand in front of the mirror. Treat yourself as you would a loved one. We shouldn’t treat ourselves any different. Fact is, the happier we are in ourselves, the better we become for the people around us. So even if you’re not doing this for you, do it for the sake of your world, for the people you treasure.
Then, speak to yourself out loud. There is something powerful about the spoken word. We speak aloud to our loved ones, our friends and our colleagues, all the time. We don’t communicate in thought alone. We talk. The same process applies with self affirmation.
You ready to put this into practice? Let’s do it!
Here’s my top WORDS OF AFFIRMATION to kick start your day!
“Hello you fabulous human. What a pleasure it is to meet you. You’ve come this far and there’s a heck of an adventure ahead of you. So go and kick butt today.”
— Me to Me
“Hello gorgeous. Well what can I say? You’ve been through the ringer yet here you are. Tenacious, audacious, brave and beautiful. Now get out there and bring life to everyone who comes your way.”
— Me to Me
“OMG just look at YOU! What a yummy human you are morphing into. I think it’s time to step up your game huh? Kick some goals, do some stuff you’ve only dreamed of. So what are you waiting for?”
— Me to me
“Hello precious. I have to say, these little moments together, really boost my day. I’m going to get out there and hustle and will be back before you know it, to cheer you on for whatever comes next.”
— Me to Me
“We meet again. I want you to know that I am your biggest fan. You hold the potential to do great things. It’s time to believe it and act upon it now. For we just never know when our time will be up.”
— Me to me
“Oi! Get back up. Don’t you wallow. There’s no time for that, for there is work to be done. You have people to love and lives to impact so dry those tears and get out there and do your thang.”
Remember this: Forming new habits take time. I encourage you to set a daily reminder on your phone for self affirmations. It’s a powerful tool and before long, you will be encouraging yourself throughout the day without even realizing it.